Dating a divorced man without kids
A good follow-up question to ask is, “If this person is still married, what is his purpose in dating me?” At this point it can’t be to get married because legally he can’t get remarried.Every year my church hosted a singles retreat in Destin, Florida on Labor Day weekend.
When the night was over I went to his hotel room to see if he was there. Then he said, “Here I am a 34-year-old man at a singles’ retreat.” That’s when I knew that dating someone who had been married was more complicated than dating someone who had not.
However, the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome, which led to the relationship breaking down.
Yes, I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him.
If it’s our desire to treat marriage as a covenant between two people that represents Jesus’ covenant with the Church, then we must respect marriage.
That means that until a legal divorce has taken place, the person is still married, even if their separation from their spouse goes on for months or years.